Marriage.

"...this is now the bone of my bones, the flesh of my flesh..."

foreword: Before reading on. Please be ensured that I am not emo, or in desperate need to leave and cleave, nor the urge to merge. It's just some thoughts that I had throughout the day.

Marriage. A joining of a man and a woman together spirit, soul and body. The ultimate act of oneness between a man and a woman. Ordained and arranged by God since the beginning of mankind.

God doesn't make mistake, but yet many marriages are failing these days and it seems like people are getting lesser interested in getting married. "If only I don't have to be committed to him..." "If only commitment meant I can be committed to women instead of woman." I bet these are some of the primary thoughts for the failing of marriages. The fear of commitment.

But what is commitment? Does commitment really tied us down and cause us to live in bondage and fear..? Many people are afraid of having a relationship with God simply because they have to commit either a saturday or sunday to church. But is commitment really evil?

The kite and the string.
Commitment is liken to the string that is attached to the kite. It helps to navigate the kite and decides whether to let the kite fly higher or to pull down the kite. So, If commitment is the string, the our relationship is the kite.
Sometimes the kite would be so irritated by the string because it hinders the progression of the kite. The kite wants to fly higher, but the string tugs down the kite. The kite would think to himself that if only the string is gone, he would be able to fly even higher and see even greater things.
BUT. We all know the ending. The kite would first fly higher indeed, but it shall eventually fall and crash to the ground. With no control, the kite crashes. With no commitment, the relationship dooms. The string is there to let go and to tug the kite. On certain situations, the string allows the kite to soar as high as possible, but on certain circumstances, the string pulls down the kite to ensure that the kite doesn't soar too high and crashes. Same thing with commitment - it allows the relationship to advance and to release the fullest potential it has but on certain occasion, tugs the relationship to safeguard the relationship from crashing.

Hence, I need to learn to love commitment and to see its positive effects all around=)

Oh yes, while I was walking home just now from marsiling. I saw Caifa's parents.
Auntie sat on a bike and uncle was pushing the bike. Although he could hardly walk straight due to certain leg condition, and walking requires more effort from him then most of us. He pushed his wife along up the slope. I was walking from afar and was actually looking at them, enjoying that beautiful sight. They were talking and chatting with one another and I could see that they were really happy. Though the both of them are no longer as perfect as they were 30 years back, the love and commitment they had for one another really touched me. They had to bear one another weaknesses and stay faithful to each other through thick and thin. Through sickness and health, they didn't left. The oneness in them exceeds the oneness in most christians marriages.

Heart warming.

The only one word I could use to describe.
What a joy it is to have a companion. To have someone who would never leave you and to stay with you throughout the days or your life.
Then it made me realize that if the both of them and I were to pass away this very moment, they are those who have truly lived.

marriage - the only taste of heaven for the non-believers...